Blogaround

October 23-29, 2022 is Ace Week! Awesome! Image source.

1. The 2022 Ace Community Survey is now open! Go take the survey! Even if you aren't asexual, it still helps if you take it :)

2. The Unending Lies of Matt Walsh (October 21) Jessie Gender's 4-hour-long video responding to Matt Walsh's "What is a Woman?" documentary. And, wow, Jessie's video is extremely good. Matt Walsh has a lot of disgusting things to say about trans people and about women, and frankly he creeps me out. 

I remember years ago, when I first became aware of Walsh's blog... and it read to me like, take a Christian belief and then take it to such an extreme that it becomes heartless and shockingly offensive. I don't view him that way any more, though- I don't see anything Christian in it; I just see hate. 

Did he change and move farther from the Christianity I knew? Or did I change and can no longer imagine a Christianity compatible with that much hate?

3. Texas Woman Nearly Loses Her Life After Doctors Can't Legally Perform an Abortion: 'Their Hands Were Tied' (October 18) [content note: miscarriage, medical trauma, anti-choice politics] "'It was just so frustrating to be dealing with something so traumatic, and then just gamble with the outcome of Amanda's life unnecessarily,' says Josh."

4. Netflix & AI Discrimination (June 4) "Here’s why Netflix’s response is laughable.  I completely believe that Netflix’s algorithm is not based on race, gender, ethnicity, or orientation. I believe that they only use a member’s viewing history. But that doesn’t make it any better?"

5. Equality vs equity: An overanalysis (February 13) "Of all my complaints about this meme, my most significant is about its choice of words. On the surface level, the meme is educating us about the distinction between 'equality' and 'equity'. However, outside of the meme, that is not how the words are used."

6. I didn’t want a baby (June 27) This writer talks about her feelings about her abortion- how she felt various conflicting emotions, including sadness. 

I think this is a really important story to tell, because I feel like, in pro-choice discussions, it's like you have to say abortion is a great thing, and if you say it's a hard decision or something, then supposedly that cedes ground to "pro-life" people because they're going to jump on that and say "see, it's a HARD DECISION, that's why we need to force women to have unnecessary ultrasounds and a 24-hour waiting period and yell at them from the sidewalk, because they can't just make a HARD DECISION by themselves."

I'm pro-choice. But that doesn't mean I have to believe "abortion is always great and awesome" or whatever. I don't really think abortion is a good thing. (I think the medical technology that allows doctors to perform abortions in a safe way is a good thing! Laws that ensure that people have access to abortion care are a good thing!!!) But you know what else is also not a good thing? Pregnancy. Like, oh GEEZ, pregnancy is THE WORST. I did a whole pregnancy, and I hated it. But it was worth it for me because now I have a perfect child. But DAMNNN obviously no one should have to go through all that if they don't want to. And obviously the pregnant person is the only one who has full knowledge of the situation and is able to weigh the options and make the decision that is right for their situation.

I remember Dr. Parker's book "Life's Work" also talks about this- many of the women that come to him for abortions have complicated feelings about it. He says it's very normal that a woman knows that having an abortion is the right decision for her, but she still has feelings of caring about her "unborn baby." (But I feel like the pro-choice people on Twitter don't want you to say that, because then "pro-life" people are going to swoop in like "AHA, this is why we need to stop women from having abortions.") Women who have abortions aren't the stereotypes that get thrown around in political debates, like this stereotype of a foolish girl who was talked into it and doesn't know what's going on, or the stereotype of someone who says "it's just a clump of cells."

7. Billy Graham’s apology was a lie (October 25) "Billy Graham visited the Oval Office to talk to the president of the United States about the evil Jewish conspiracy that he believed had a 'stranglehold' on America."

8. One Of The 10 Hardest Puzzles We've Ever Seen (October 24) 1-hour-37-minute sudoku solve video. This is incredible.

9. Biden pushes crackdown on bank ‘junk fees’ that government says will save Americans $3 billion a year (October 27)

10. People of faith, Fox News grifter edition (October 11) "Nobody talks about people of politics, because the idea is inherently stupid. The idea of people of faith is similarly stupid — everybody is a person of faith, in the sense that everybody operates from axiomatic metaphysical priors, except for Richard Dawkins, who is just purely rational and objective all the way down to the last turtle — but of course 'people of faith' not really an idea per se, it’s just some idiotic slogan, meant to make conservative white Christians feel like they’re under some sort of constant massive cultural attack by the godless socialist woke hordes."

11. ‘Do They Even Read the Bible?’ — Why Exposing White Evangelical Hypocrisy is a Dead End (October 25) "But the White evangelical Bible isn’t simply a biblical text that speaks to its readers, it’s a complicated assemblage of social, political, and theological assumptions that determine in advance how that text speaks. The White evangelical Bible speaks for itself only after the reader makes arguments out of biblical allusions and citations that reinforce what the White evangelical already knows to be true." This is SPOT ON.

12. Trump’s Ties to Jerry Falwell Jr. and His Wife’s Creepy Pool Boy Sex Saga Revealed (October 26) [content note: Jerry Falwell Jr.'s sex life] "'I felt guilty,' Granda says in the film. 'I’m like, I know the truth about Jerry. He’s trying to appear like this strongman, but I know him as the cuck in the corner of the room.'"

13. The ace nerd (October 27) "It’s obvious that the nonsexual nerd is not 'for' ace nerds, and the writers are not interested in any real world intersection."

14. An Ace Reading of "When She Loved Me," Exploring the Drawbacks and Affordances of Nonhumanity (2021) "When friends get partners and suddenly disappear from our lives, we're told that we should've expected to be dropped eventually."