tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post9085674138346118592..comments2023-12-27T19:24:48.254-05:00Comments on Tell me why the world is weird: We CANNOT say "everyone is beautiful"perfectnumber628http://www.blogger.com/profile/10303683510076315803noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-9876490996820208032013-04-08T01:25:12.385-04:002013-04-08T01:25:12.385-04:00oh my goodness!!! me finding this post is soooo ti...oh my goodness!!! me finding this post is soooo timely :-). I was recently struggling with the importance of appearance, seeing as I'm not physically attractive. I wanted to talk about it with friends but i'm sure their response would be something like "of course you are!! look at you!" to try and make me feel better, but I'm actually finding that that's ok. to not be attractive (because that is what's beautiful right?). after a long rant, I concluded this while writing to the future Mr. Me :-) "I may not be beautiful. I really amn’t, although with some little transformation I can pass for “cute” but that my smile and who I am just shines through all that. So, it sorta does matter that I’m not beautiful but you will be able to see me and therefore love me. Whether or not I have crazy amounts of acne, or too big boobies or if I’m too fat or have weird hair. You’ll see me and love me. It makes it harder on you to find me coz at first glance you probably wouldn’t be captivated but it’s ok. Coz I know you’ll see through and when you see you’ll love. And you won’t be settling. :-)" so your post=awesome!Libbynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-76504570905134981852012-11-29T08:31:04.022-05:002012-11-29T08:31:04.022-05:00White, skinny, and attractive to men? So stereotyp...White, skinny, and attractive to men? So stereotypical. But I guess it's true. I have dark skin myself. So I feel insecure myself. I feel like skinning myself or killing myself sometimes. It's hard. I guess you just have to deal with it. Life's a gift.Skyenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-76761519195219312922012-11-21T01:24:21.038-05:002012-11-21T01:24:21.038-05:00Interesting post. I wanted to argue with you becau...Interesting post. I wanted to argue with you because I do like to say everyone is beautiful. I don't think I used to think that, but then I took an art class where we had to do nude drawings, and one of our models was this 70-year-old wrinkly man with his wrinkles and his bones showing through his skin, and during the course of several hours drawing I realized he was incredibly beautiful, and something of that stuck with me.<br /><br />So I do think everyone is beautiful, except I guess in those rare cases where someone has been badly hurt in a way that seriously deformed their body. And I think it's good to be able to see that beauty when we look at ourselves and one another, just like hopefully we can see it in flowers and landscapes and all the other beautiful things in the world.<br /><br />But...."beautiful" in the sense of, attractive to the average man in our particular culture? I suppose not, alas.Reneenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-26005979068112391172012-07-22T14:28:00.352-04:002012-07-22T14:28:00.352-04:00Oooh, I like what you wrote about "it's n...Oooh, I like what you wrote about "it's not true that appearance doesn't matter at all."perfectnumber628https://www.blogger.com/profile/10303683510076315803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-68342524715901485182012-07-22T13:48:11.998-04:002012-07-22T13:48:11.998-04:00I don't know that I've thought about that ...I don't know that I've thought about that distinction, but on just a few moments' reflection, I can say: If we valued people for things like kindness, honesty, courage, etc., more than for appearance, then I wouldn't much care whether the definition of the word "beauty" got expanded. :)<br /><br />I say "more than" not "instead of" because I don't actually believe that appearance doesn't matter *at all*. See this post for my thoughts on that: http://lovingfromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/2010/03/does-appearance-matter-after-all.html.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-77063781846699867592012-07-17T14:29:55.470-04:002012-07-17T14:29:55.470-04:00Thanks! I just checked out your blog- very cool. D...Thanks! I just checked out your blog- very cool. Definitely a message people need to hear.<br /><br />I have a question- when you say you want to "redefine beauty" do you just mean "we should value people for things like kindness, honesty, courage, etc, instead of appearance", or do you mean you wish the word "beauty" would mean those things instead of just "physical beauty"?perfectnumber628https://www.blogger.com/profile/10303683510076315803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-2521167094573714202012-07-17T13:42:14.941-04:002012-07-17T13:42:14.941-04:00Discovered your blog through your comments on Rach...Discovered your blog through your comments on Rachel Held Evans'. :) <br /><br />This post is very much in line with my personal mission: to love people "from the inside out" and motivate others to do the same. On my own blog I wrote a post about redefining what beauty means: http://lovingfromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/2012/04/b-is-for-beauty.html<br /><br />And @Anonymous: I also wrote a post called "Even the Beautiful People Need to be Loved From the Inside Out": http://lovingfromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/2010/06/even-beautiful-people-need-to-be-loved.html<br /><br />@perfectnumber628: Thank you for focusing on the things that are truly important. <3Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-67410848291443977462012-07-09T21:10:57.689-04:002012-07-09T21:10:57.689-04:00Cool- you have a lot of good insight. Ideally, peo...Cool- you have a lot of good insight. Ideally, people should just recognize that different people look different and it's not the most important thing in the world. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this. ^_^perfectnumber628https://www.blogger.com/profile/10303683510076315803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-71050890886919638732012-07-09T10:27:06.705-04:002012-07-09T10:27:06.705-04:00There have always been standards of beauty. I like...There have always been standards of beauty. I like to think that it's the imperfections that make one beautiful. Sometimes I think beauty and ugly have more in common than average because both fall out of the norm and both can be off putting in certain situations and to certain people. <br /><br />I'm the one that everyone is constantly calling beautiful. It's weird, for me. For one, I think people exaggerate. I see myself in the mirror daily and while I admit that I'm attractive, I don't get why everyone else is so hung up about it. To have so many people focused on your looks, sometimes missing aspects of your character because of it and sometimes (mis)judging your character based on it. It usually doesn't hurt to be beautiful unless you come across a righteously jealous person who will make sure you understand the pain of unattractive women which happens from time to time (e.g. you can't be beautiful and be a good/smart/industrious/real person). Sometimes I get benefits that a less attractive woman may not get. I appreciate that I can get a free drink whenever I want or that it gets me into glamourous events, but that's sugar - being one of the beautiful people at some exclusive club of beautiful people doesn't make your life better, it just means you got in. I have more fun with people I care about whether or not they are beautiful and I can pay for my own drinks. <br /><br />I wish I could communicate to all the women out there who feel 'less than' that they are not! Looks don't determine whether you're good or bad, happy or unhappy; beauty even offers limited opportunities for success (again coming up against the righteous jealousy factor) or love (it simply isn't true that all men only want to date model types). I also wish that I could communicate to people who are put off by my looks that I'm pretty much the same as them inside. We are all real women because God made us that way.<br /><br />Realizing it may be easy for me to say, I really don't think looks matter as much as people think they do. Looks matter to people who think they matter. I've seen 250 pound women who are happily married, have family, friends, a career, a life. Who am I to say that my life is better than theirs because I look better?<br /><br />Thanks for this post. I appreciate your comments and especially those pictures which I've seen on Facebook in dismay. It's hypocritical when one takes a picture of a skinny woman in order to deride her for not having lots of curves. She's just as real as the more voluptous women out there and probably has the same feelings. We think we've advanced as a society by embracing the curve, but we haven't if we're still putting other women down.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-29544233287498149132012-07-04T11:07:16.320-04:002012-07-04T11:07:16.320-04:00Thanks! ^_^ Yeah that is a good way to sum it up...Thanks! ^_^ Yeah that is a good way to sum it up- women are failures if they're not beautiful. And there are SO MANY levels and directions to this problem- for example, if someone says they want to lose weight, their friends will think it means they hate their body, and be like "NO NO NO you're perfect the way you are"... instead of supporting them making their own choices about their body, for whatever reasons they may have.perfectnumber628https://www.blogger.com/profile/10303683510076315803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8626292304461574111.post-7519484961186433632012-07-04T09:21:34.220-04:002012-07-04T09:21:34.220-04:00Yes! Yes! Yes! This post resonates with me SO much...Yes! Yes! Yes! This post resonates with me SO much.<br />I have to say I'm 100% guilty of the "everyone is beautiful! yay!" syndrome. And this post had broadened my thinking concerning the topic quite a bit because it is a complex issue as you said. <br />What grates with me about society is how being beautiful is constructed to be the ultimate achievement for women. I remember when my cousin told me I'm average looking in my teens, it was a massive blow to me. I immediately felt...less - less of a woman, less feminine, just less (sorry this is so ambiguous). <br />Thank you for broadening my thinking and presenting a thought-provoking piece. There's lots of things to chew over and re-read here.Viva Feministahttp://vivafeminista.com/noreply@blogger.com